Separation Principle… A Simple Strategy for PTSD sufferers..
Treating past trauma memory couldn’t be simpler, first use the previous post, I am coining The Profile Principle and follow it up with this suggested Principe. In my last post I introduced you to a simple but highly effective principle that we cannot be in two places at once. To attempt to heal an injury that isn’t ours, that belongs to another person, is like flogging a dead horse…wasted energy. All that life-force trying to manipulate our past in some way; learning we are powerless to do so; that bringing it into the present ,causes us and those around us to suffer also; for our lives to become unmanageable.
Treating past trauma memory couldn’t be simpler, first use the previous post, I am coining The Profile Principle and follow it up with this suggested Principe.
In my last post I introduced you to a simple but highly effective principle that we cannot be in two places at once. To attempt to heal an injury that isn’t ours, that belongs to another person, is like flogging a dead horse…wasted energy. All that life-force trying to manipulate our past in some way; learning we are powerless to do so; that bringing it into the present ,causes us and those around us to suffer also; for our lives to become unmanageable.
Here, I wish to introduce you to the follow up principle that will further highlight what each of us are doing wrong when it comes to processing, healing and releasing a past trauma memory; but in learning this lesson, we see in this moment, we have the power to stop the rot! we can clearly see the mistakes, there will most likely be more than 1; in so doing. we experience a spiritual awakening moment that we each have the power to step off the path down the rabbit hole, and choose another path.
The only person on this earth who can truly heal you of the past is you, it is quite simple but it’s not easy. But I am saying if you embrace this, you can let go of your past completely; cast out your demons; no longer suffer nightmares, flashbacks or the triggers associated with the event.
In the last blog I suggested you write individual PROFILES to identify who you are today, who the rightful owner of the past burden was and how you would like a future version of you to live free of all your baggage.
This is a continuation of this profiling but here we list each event to a specific time and aspect of us in the past. old family photographs will help; if it is safe to approach older family members, whether parents. siblings or relations, get as much information of your younger aspects of you.
For me, being 60 years of age, I have 60 A4 pages, to use to profile each year of my life. Granted there most likely have not been one or more trauma events for every year up until this present year, but you are open to seeing what belongs where and more importantly to whom.
Whether you work backwards or forwards is a personal choice, and might even be a subject you can broach with your therapist, significant other or family member or friend that you would feel safe helping you on this journey of discovery.
The concept is an extension of ‘The Profile Principle’; that is you are compiling a file of all the events and experiences goad and bad that life has thrown at you over your life time.
When you have completed this, ‘The Separation Principle’ you now can see how many memories you have from your past, and how many of these memories you have allowed intrude upon your life in the present.
There will be some memories that are connected to the present, they are ongoing and that is acceptable for the moment. Down the road, you can look at processing these in some way, such as a physical action of walking away from a dysfunctional relationship or environment.
For the most part we see we are carrying a lot of baggage that doesn’t belong to us, rather it belongs to younger aspects of us; who never asked us to carry their burden; never wanted or needed us to fight their battles or save them; rather they survived those events so that we would be free today, to live a life focused on being truly alive in the present.
Having someone who can help you through this minefield of truths can make the journey easier and i suggest if at all possible, attempt to find someone to work with.
A pastor or minister, or a fellow member of a support group such as ACA [ACOA] might be the better option.
This is about self-care; self-healing; letting go of the past; to live in the present.
There is still be plenty of work to do in the present, but not trying to fix or save others, will enable and empower you to heal you wounds faster, and return to a somewhat more normal life. Separating present day you from the burden of all your past aspects, will enable you and your therapist to achieve your goals much more easily, as all your focus will be on the present.
Remember you are a Wounded Warrior Survivor.
You can do this!
Look back on where you came from, everything you experienced, suffered and you are still standing.
This shows how strong you truly are, a warrior that never gave up, with a will to win through.
It’s time to say enough is enough and to use this Separation Practice practice to separate the present day you from the many past aspects of you.
It is your right on this earth, as a child of God, to live a life of Hope, Joy and Purpose, Acceptance and Self-Worth; Stronger Healthier Boundaries with your past and future and others.